Relationship Advice Column Edition 10, Don't force It, Top 5 things That attract me to someone, and a bear wins today!

In sports, you always here the cliche, you don't pick the year to contend, the year picks you.  Take the 2010 Cincinnati Reds for example. 

They got off to a hot start with a team that was supposed to finish middle of the pack and ended up winning the division.  You can bring in good players, expect to contend for a championship like the 2011 Philadelphia Eagles and completely blow it.

The same is true in relationships.  You can't be like "Yeah, I need a girlfriend/boyfriend," and run out on the town and force it with any old person who walks down the street.  Some of you may be saying, "Hey David, what about love at first sight?"  I am not sure if I believe in that or not, but even if I do I would say love at first sight cannot work when you are out like a tiger scouting his prey and then all of a sudden be like, "hey I like that one."  Please try not to be desperate.  I know some of you out there, are losing hope, but don't.  You don't choose when someone comes along, the relationship gods, Cupid or whatever, chooses you.  Let it happen, don't force it.  It is a huge turnoff if you do.  Just go through the process.  I'm not a fan of the game-playing stage of a potential relationship, but it does have its advantages.  You get to know the person during this stage, and you see what they are into, what you are into, and as always if they are into you, you can read it anyway.  If you are making excuses about why the person doesn't show you attention or whatever, he probably just isn't into you and move on.  The relationship gods say it wasn't meant to be.  Timing has to be right for a relationship to work (yes April, in this section I'm paraphrasing our conversation about previous relationships.  Thank you) and the people involved have to be at the exact right moments in their lives, otherwise it's like trying to fit a square peg into a circular hole.  It never will work.  Mostly, what I'm trying to say is just go out and live your life.  Have a good time.  Meet new people.  You never know when or how you are going to find that person.  It could be someone you've known for a while and just never saw it like that, or the chick next to you in line at the grocery store, or that dude at the club who's been making eye contact with you all night.  You just don't know and when it clicks, you will know.  You will feel the switch come on, and it isn't subtle.  Just let the switch come on and don't force it, because if you do you're just going to mess with your own head.  I know I give a lot of advice, but this is the one, I actually follow to a t.  I slip up on a lot of my own advice, and throw all the rules out the window when I'm going for someone, but I never feel desperate for a relationship or wanting a girlfriend just for the sake of having one.  I go with the flow, you know.  If it happens, it happens. If not, then it wasn't meant to be.


Now, last week I had planned on doing this list for you all, because it was brought up in conversation with my friend Nicolette.  I forgot to put it in the blog last week so here it is. It was a tough list to compile, so I encourage you to do the same.  Mine is for a lady, but the same could be done for a gentleman.  It's just a little exercise that may help you all narrow down what you are looking for.  It's just the Top 5 Things that attracts me to a Girl.  I usually do my countdowns in reverse order, but this one makes more sense going most important to least so I'm starting with number one.


1. Sense of humor.  She has to get mine and love one liners and she's got to be able to make me chuckle every once in a while too.  I like to laugh and make people laugh.  I can't have a relationship with someone when I tell a joke and the lady is sitting there like a statue because she doesn't get it or doesn't like the joke I tell.

2. Someone who has a little bit of an attitude. Yeah, I know what you're thinking...I'm nothing like that.  I try to avoid confrontation at all costs; I'm as patient as they come.  I like a little bit of the opposite so we can balance each other out.  I like ladies who are outgoing.  I don't mean like full out ghettofied attitude and too much is a turnoff, but I like it when a lady has a little bit of speak up for herself attitude. Don't get me wrong, I love good girls, but you know with a little bit of spice on top.  It's a little ironic that the only people I've dated have been brunettes although I do think it's just coincidental. 

3. Someone with like interests to me.  I like to play recreational sports, and I love when girls are on the sidelines cheering me on, but what really turns me on to a girl is when she's willing to play alongside me.  I've said several times, I like a lady who's willing to throw on the eye black and actually have a little bit of athletic talent.  I like a girl who knows you get four downs to get ten yards to get another first down, or the best strategy in sand volleyball is bump, set, spike.  I like a girl who loves attending sporting events like Bengals or Reds games.  They don't even have to like the same teams as me.  I like girls who like talking movies, and not just, "I like that movie," but you know get deeper, like what intrigued you and why?  I want a girl who enjoys to dance.  Not like everyday, and not even at clubs or bars but you know just with me. 

4.  Someone who is mature, not mainstream, and knows when to be serious and when not to be.  Okay this is a lot to put into one number, but maturity is important to me.  Yes, I do stupid things sometimes, but when you get to know me you know how deep I am.  I like a girl who is independent and knows who she is.  I like a girl who has gone through things in life and wasn't just pampered.  Someone who appreciates who they are.  I like people who aren't the prom queen, but more like the girl with a soul.  I want someone who knows how to have fun but also knows when to be serious.  

 5. Physical Appearance.  I have been adamant in saying those who don't believe physical attractiveness at all are naive.  You have to somewhat be into the way someone looks.  There are leagues and there is an ability to date out of your league because of the other factors I discussed above.  This isn't the most important thing to me by far.  I'm not shallow but I have to be into the way someone looks in some ways, you know.  The first thing I notice on a lady is her hair, followed by eyes (not necessarily the color).  I notice someone's style and everything like that as well.  I mentioned earlier that for some reason I've only ever dated brunettes, but I've been attracted to other hair colors, it is truly merely coincidence.

Winner of the Day: A bear.  Yeah bears hibernate in the winter or whatever but a cable guy was working and discovered a bear in a customer's basement. Read about the beast below here!

Loser of the Day: Deja Vu.  Yeah that strip club that uses a Bill Clinton sound-a-like on their radio ads is closing its doors after it was found guilty on 10 counts of illegally operating a sexually oriented business... Read specifically why here.

  Quote of the Day: “If you can't feed a hundred people, then just feed one.” -Mother Teresa

Song of the Day: Check Yes or No by George Strait

Humorous pick up Fail of the Day:

Being Different, Crispy M&M's, and the sweet music of Ginuwine

I don't really have any topic to write about so I'm just going to go with the flow here with no real intention of getting anywhere special.  I want to give a shout out to the different people out there.  Those of you who aren't mainstream.  You know, the kid in grade school who likes to build robots instead of playing baseball.  The girl who gets smacked around by her boyfriend for not being good enough. The one's who are depressed, down on themselves.  Those of you who have no one else.  The son who can't live up to his parents' expectations or the woman who goes unnoticed around the office.  The shy ones; the ones who are loners.  The misunderstood.  The broken ones.  This one is for you.  I'm different.  Not everyone gets me and frankly I don't care.  I do what I want, and I don't think about what other people think about what I do.  Jim Henson was different.  He liked to play with puppets.  What a weirdo right?  How about Walt Disney?  "I want to build a park where all kids' wildest dreams come true."  That will never work.  Bob Dylan is different.  He has a terrible voice and could never make it in the music business.  Steve Jobs was fired by the company he created once because they thought he was too different.  Different isn't bad.  Different is good.  Why do we hate advertising?  It all drowns each other out.  If everyone was the same it would be like the movie Equilibrium or the Island to an extent.  We need different to bring the color in a black and white world, so I say express yourself.  Who cares?  I'm a pale white guy who loves rap music and I'm not scared to admit it.  I love chick flicks and pina coladas.  I'm a republican with some liberal views.  I hate censorship.  I am not gay, but I support that you can do what you want so if you float that way, do it.  I like movies that make you cry more than ones that make you laugh.  I liked George W. Bush.  If you don't like me for that, then you are pretty darn shallow.  I will talk to anybody if you need help.  Many of you know that.  I am extremely loyal, and I don't flip flop although I will actually listen.  I don't always back the most popular opinion or the most popular people.  And I don't care.  I like to make people smile more than anything in the world.  And if I get one a day, it makes my day.  Santa's sleigh runs on whether or not people believe, mine runs on smiles.  Admit to yourself who you are.  Don't always go with the popular opinion.  Be the first to speak up when everyone else is too shy.  Share who you are with others.  They could just be waiting for a clue that someone else is like them.  So this one goes out to the one guy who still watches wrestling and believes it is real and the 50 year old who still wants to try to go to college.  This one goes out to the innocent man in prison everyone else thinks is guilty but he just needs a voice.  This goes out to you.  Be different.

I can't help it,
I love the broken ones,
The ones who,
Need the most patching up.
The ones who,
Never been loved,
Never been loved,
Never been loved enough.
Maybe I see a part of me in them.
The missing piece always trying to fit in.
The shattered heart,
Hungry for a home.
No you're not alone,
I love the broken ones.

-Dia Frampton

Winner of the Day: M&M Crispies:  Thanks Nicolette for the article.  They were both of our favorite M&M's and then disappeared out of nowhere.  They were back in the news because they were on this list of 25 Foods You'll Never Be Able to Eat Again.  I wish I knew what else was on there but the site is blocked here at work.  You all remember those little pizzas that were like 10 cents and you warmed them up in the microwave?  Those things were delicious.

Loser of the Day: Jamie Hein.  Apparently she thinks she lives in Mississippi in 1963.  She posted a whites only sign on the public swimming pool for which she is a landlord.  There was a black family who moved from there to avoid any humiliation after Jamie appealed to make it legal.  There are pathetic human beings out there.

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Quote of the Day: "Being different is being remembered."-Luciano Miguel Contento

Song of the Day: Differences by Ginuwine

Goblin of the Day:

Lying, Technology, and Hairspray

Why must people mask who they are?  Why do people find the need to lie or not tell the whole truth?  I don't really get it.  Second graders are honest.  They haven't quite learned how to lie yet so they tell you straight up how they are feeling.  Life would be simpler if we all just had the mind of second graders.  We'd all be fantastic artists.  We'd live on macaroni and cheese and hot dogs. Most importantly, we'd be honest.  I don't get some people.  They are caught red-handed and still deny everything.  You learn to lie shortly after second grade.  You may break an item around your house and blame it on someone else and realize you get away with it.  Then it's like a rush.  It gets more prevalent during your teenage years where you want to go out but you don't want your parents to know where you are going so you say something completely off the wall.  Lying has become easier in the technological era.  It has become easier to hide details, to keep a poker face, to cover things up.  People lie on dating profiles, Myspace, facebook, or AIM. Lying is not necessary.  Just suck it up and admit what you're doing you know.  Admit who you are and say what you're doing.  I promise that rush you got for lying back when you were a kid, is there for when you tell the truth.  You feel good about yourself as well you should.


As technology goes, this is completely unrelated to lying, but I was helping my friend Mallory with this passage she had to read and it was about how technology is changing our lives and how we are.  If you read it you'd realize that it's true.  I remember when parents had no way of getting a hold of you while you were out.  We all didn't have cell phones like they do now.  There's no privacy anymore either. Everyone knows where you are at pretty much at all times due to social networking.  They know who you hang out with and with FourSquare and facebook, everyone knows where you are.  There are also no more private thoughts.  If I have a random thought now, I go onto Twitter, or facebook and type it out.  Bar arguments about sports are on forum comments now.  Girls go out just to take pictures of themselves for the specific purpose of putting them on facebook.  People are beginning to live for technology rather than technology living for them.  Can you say, Terminator?    Anyway for all the good technology does, there is plenty of bad. People save everything on computers now.  When our society is buried 1,000's of years from now, a lot of the best thoughts including my blog of course won't be discovered like the Egyptians or Greeks who had it all written out.  People are losing the art of writing too.  They are beginning to stop teaching cursive in school which is ridiculous in my opinion.  How will people even know how to sign the bottom of their credit card receipts?  Technology is unreliable but our society has to rely on it.  Remember Y2K?  People thought if the computers crashed the world would end and they were right.  Everything is saved on them.  With that being said, I sit in front of two computer screens everyday at work and without them this job would be difficult and I couldn't write you my blog everyday or communicate with several people I would've lost touch with.  Technology is necessary.   Just beware, don't live for technology.  Let it be background music to your life, not the whole party.


Winner of the Day: Google.  They just donated 11.5 million bucks to fight modern day slavery which is mostly sex slaves.  My beef is just that they are worth billions and 11.5 isn't enough in my opinion if you want to be serious about it. The Story.

Loser of the Day: Nikki Blonsky... Remember the remake of hairspray where John Travolta was dressed in drag?  Well Nikki was the star of the film and she fell from grace.  She no longer calls Travolta or Walken colleagues.  She sweeps up hair for a living after working at a shoe store.  What happened? Read here.

Quote of the Day: "Devote five minutes a day smiling, just smiling. And after a while, it will come naturally." -Love Happens (2009)


Song of the Day: 3-Way (The Golden Rule) by the Lonely Island Ft. Justin Timberlake and Lady Gaga

Haircut of the Day:

Christmas Spirit, and 25 Greatest Christmas Movies

Christmas is in 12 days, and I believe I've hardly mentioned it on the blog.  You can't go into a store anymore without a Salvation Army guy ringing a bell down your throat.  With that being said, don't forget what Christmas is all about.  Back in high school, the Yeti (Alan Flinchum) and I worked a shift for the Salvation Army in front of K-Mart in Newport.  It was 6 hours of volunteer work after school which absolutely sucked.  We rung a bell for hours with not too many people giving money.  We talked about everything from the weather to how Alan's mother refuses to pronounce Favre like Far-ve, and will only say Fav-re.  Anyway, I went into Kroger's yesterday and the raggedy Salvation Army dude greeted me.  Like most, I tried not to make eye contact, but in the store, it hit me.  That is a charity out there, trying to raise money for people less fortunate than I am.  You can argue that some of it was their own doing and they cheat welfare and all that, but what about the children?  What about the true spirit of Christmas?  Christmas is to celebrate the birth of our savior, Jesus Christ.  For those of you who don't know, I'm Catholic.  I was baptized, had my confirmation; all that 9 yards.  I strongly believe in God.  There are too many coincidences in this world to just claim science did all of this.  I, however, don't believe in church.  I compare it to Communism.  Before you judge me, hear my point.  The idea of church is great in a vacuum.  The problem is the church is always begging for money.  They make it voluntary but there's definitely a hierarchy for those who give.  They also shun public schools.  I graduated from a public school.  Are you saying I didn't turn out alright?  I remember going through my first communion and confirmation and all that and the Catholic school kids were always treated better.  The priests are not doing anything to help my wanting to go back to church.  They molest little boys and the church buries it under a rug.  Anyway I compare it to Communism because Communism is a great idea on paper, but it never works.  You have to have someone in charge and that ruins the whole idea.  Now back to my original point.  I walked through Kroger's and I've always said I'll never donate to Salvation Army because I paid my debt when I volunteered for them back in the day.  Something hit me in that store.  It's not about me.  It's about the spirit of Christmas.  It's about generosity, and making someone's life a little better.  Leaving the story, I made eye contact with the bell ringer and walked over and popped any loose change I had into his bucket.  The guy was very grateful.  It was worth it just to see the smile on his face.  I got caught up in this selfish world we live in where it's all about me, me, me.  I forgot what it was like to do something like that.  It wasn't much change but a little can go a long way, as they say.  Life isn't about who you are.  It's about how many people you touch that make you who you are.  I look no further than the crucifix hanging from my neck to gather inspiration from.  His 2011'th birthday will be in 12 days.  So let's celebrate, and get out of the serious talk and here is my 25 favorite Christmas movies... The movies are ranked based on how related the movies are to Christmas (like Step Brothers is considered a Christmas movie because Christmas is going on a couple of times but it can't rate too high because it's not all about Christmas), the quality of the movie, the humor/seriousness of the movie, the acting and so on.  The movies have to be feature length so Rudolph, Frosty, and all of those movies do not count.  Without any further ado...here they come.

25 Greatest Christmas Movies

25. Babes in Toyland (1986 Version)-Yes the movie was made for TV, but it had some stars before they were stars...Drew Barrymore and Keanu Reeves.  It only made the list because there is a song about Cincinnati in the movie.  Other than that, at this age it is hard to watch.

24. Die Hard-Okay so it's not the most Christmasy of movies, but it counts especially because of John McClane.  He is such a jolly guy.  He wrote on a dead terrorists shirt, "Now I have a machine gun. Ho ho ho."

23. Step Brothers- Hulk Hands.  Nuff said.

22. Gremlins-This whole gremlins thing is because of Christmas.  Mogwai was a Christmas present.  The rest is history.

21. The Nightmare before Christmas- So this is more of a Halloween movie to me so, this is why it ranks so low on the countdown.  Great movie.  Great soundtrack and of course, Jack the Pumpkin King.  Santa does make an appearance.

20. The Santa Clause 2- This isn't Tim Allen's worst Christmas movie.  He was in Christmas with the Kranks which you won't find on this list.  In fact, I can't remember much of this movie.  I saw it in theaters and never again. There was a third installment of these films with Martin Short I believe that I never saw but I doubt good enough to knock Babes in Toyland out of the 25 spot.

19. 8 Crazy Nights-Not really a Christmas movie, but it is technically about the Jewish version of Christmas.  Christmas is mentioned in this Adam Sandler animated film.  It's a story for Jewish children who have to deal with all these Christmas movies we're talking about.  The soundtrack is awesome and you'll fall in love with Whitey.

18. I'll be Home for Christmas-I remember back in middle school, they would show a Christmas movie to the whole school the last day before Christmas break, yes back when we were still allowed to call it Christmas break before all these politically correct people took over the world...Anyway we watched this one starring JTT once and I remember thinking it was alright.

17. Love Actually- It's a Christmas love story thing with Hugh Grant.  I saw this in theaters as well and never again.  It's not really my favorite movie but chicks seem to like it so here it is.

16. Batman Returns-Outside of the Dark Knight, this is my favorite Batman film.  There is a Christmas undertone when the Penguin comes to Gotham City.

15. Prancer- I remember this being a heart breaker. I think Prancer gets sick and starts dying until a girl who still believes in Santa or whatever nurses him back to health.  I remember really liking this one.

14. Surviving Christmas-Ben Affleck, a millionare in the film pays a family to spend Christmas with him.

13. The Family Man- This is about Nick Cage being a horrible person and he gets to see what his life would've been like if he chose the other way on Christmas Eve.

12. The Santa Clause-Here's Tim Allen again.  A much better and memorable performance in this one.  I remember really liking this movie as a kid.

11. The Family Stone-Sarah Jessica Parker visits her fiance's family for Christmas and realizes she isn't right for the dude. 

10. Home Alone II: Lost in New York- The sequel is never as good as the first and it's still strange to see Joe Pesci in a PG movie but it's still got a few good laughs and whatnot.  The video game was pretty fun.

9. A Christmas Story-I think it's overrated.  So here it is.

8. Jack Frost/ The Grinch-Neither movie in my opinion lived up to the hype so if you put them together they are top 10 material.  Remember there was a horror movie called Jack Frost that came out at the same time and people saw the box and were like what the hell?

7. White Christmas/It's a Wonderful Life- I have not seen either of these films but on a facebook poll I took, these two received enough support to put them in the top 10, but not above Ernest.

6. Ernest Saves Christmas- Yes Ernest is at it again saving Christmas no big deal.

5. Home Alone- Here are the McAlister's being irresponsible leaving their kid behind.  John Candy has a minor role in this and that always helps.  I remember being scared of the neighbor when I was little.

4. Bad Santa- The raunchy side of Christmas movies brought to you by Billy Bob Thornton who I'm pretty sure plays himself.  The kid they found for this is perfect for the role and the chick from Gilmore Girls is also in this as well as a midget.

3. National Lampoon's Christmas Vacation- I crack up every time I see this from the lights issue, to Uncle Eddie, to Granny singing the National Anthem.  So many good quotes and definitely top 5.  The Griswold's never fail to entertain unless it's National Lampoon's European Vacation.

2. Elf- "Bye Buddy, Hope you find your dad." "I like smiling. Smiling is my favorite." "Buddy the Elf, what's your favorite color?"  There are so many quotes in this classic I'm sure you've all seen so I'm not going to describe the plot.  Will Ferrell makes you forget the saying that PG movies can't be good.  

1. Jingle All The Way-When you put Arnold in a Christmas movie, how can't it be number one?  Then throw Sinbad in as the villian and the late Phil Hartman playing the All-American Dad.  Must see.  I'd quote it but it's impossible to talk like Arnold in text. "It's Turbo Time."  From my friend Bob McCoy: Bob McCoy 

if you would like to add my synopsis on why Jingle All The Way is also the best and most awesome road movie....

howard langston is a man conflicted. addicted to working and unable to see the big picture of whats happening to his family life and his marriage, everything comes to a finality when he misses one of the most important events in his sons current life.

destroyed, and knowing he is on the verge of losing everything that means anything to him.. he makes a promise to get the one thing his son wants in an effort to effectively buy back his love and repair things the same way he does in his business life where he makes everyone his "number one customer". he constantly goes above and beyond for his customers, so why not now for his son on the cusp of losing him forever?

with an empty promise and a lie in his hands.. he sets off on what he thinks will be a simple journey to fullfill his life and get everything back in order. what he actually gets, is a lesson in whats really important.

howard embarks on a journey all across the tri state area in an effort to find the elusive "turboman"... encountering crazed shoppers, rabid old ladies, precocious children, insults, ridicule... all the while not seeing that under his nose, his family is about to be stolen away at the efforts of his jigalo next door neighbor and a frustrated wife who has had enough.

howard travels far and wide to achieve what he thinks is his goal.. battling gangs of santa claus con men, taking the brunt of abuse and competition against his arch nemesis myron.. and also dodging the police on his renegade mission to find the turbo man and bring peace, love and happiness back to his home life.

ultimately he loses his chance, narrowly escapes being arrested, has his car highjacked and stripped, gets ripped off, and returns to his home.. only to go below the belt and attempt to steal the doll from under his neighbors tree. after nearly burning the place down, and nearly killing a reindeer... his life leaves him with neighbor in tow.

howard has his "come to jesus" moment in which he realizes that giving up is not an option, and decides to try and rejoin his family at the christmas parade and make things right.

after getting swept up in another mess and mistaken identity, he has a final epic battle with his nemesis where he is forced to save his sons life, reconicle with the cops, and reunite the love back to his family.

howard realizes the true meaning of not only christmas itself, but of love and sees what he had been missing the whole time. he saves his sons life, and in effect; changes both of their lives making each other see the importance of what really matters.... the father/son love relationship that goes above all else.

in the end the family are brought back together, howard is changed forever, and he is restored as a great father, husband, and patriarch of his family.

This blog is too long to do a winner and loser of the day, so here is the Quote of the Day:

"This will be a sign to you: You will find a baby wrapped in cloths and lying in a manger."-Luke 2:12

Song of the Day: The Broken Ones by Dia Frampton

Yeti Photo of the Day:

Brawl at the Shootout, Alec Baldwin, and Yeti Crabs.

As many of you already know, I am a Kentucky Wildcats fan.  I have been since birth and for some reason that I've never understood, Kentucky fans are supposed to hate UC.  I never really got it because there was no big rivalry or anything.  It's not like they play all the time.  The last time they played was in the NCAA tournament where UC was a 7 seed and Kentucky was a 2.  Eric Hicks and Jason Maxiell were the stars of UC, and Rajon Rondo, Randolph Morris, and Patrick Sparks were the stars of Kentucky.   I used to hate them because that's how I was taught, especially during the Bob Huggins era.  When Huggy Bear was let go of his duties, I started to follow them a little more.  I actually liked Jason Maxiell.  I have nothing against UC anymore.  I see no reason for it so that is that.  Now as for Xavier, I've always followed them, a little Catholic school in the heart of Cincinnati.  I've rooted for them to do well.  I liked players like Romain Sato and Lionel Chalmers who led the team to a surprising Elite 8 appearance.  They've been one of my favorite teams.  They're from the A-10 and I always like the underdog schools and they're local so why not cheer for them?

Anyway, I have always enjoyed the Crosstown shootout, and I usually cheer for the away team or underdog because I don't cheer for one team over another at any other point in the season.  Any of you that talk to me about college basketball know that I've always been a fan of Yancy Gates.  Yeah, he's a little bit of a thug but he's also a good guy if you listen to him speak.  He never lived up to his potential and he gets lazy on rebounds and doesn't run the court like he should, but I've always liked him.  I bring all of this up because of one of the craziest brawls I've seen in basketball.  I remember the malice in the Palace where fans got involved, but the one on Saturday was just as insane.  The game was a blowout going X's way.  Just win and as a Catholic school, you let your play speak for yourself right?  No that's not the case.  The Xavier players smack talked the whole time, starting during the National Anthem.  They never let up.  They cussed and taunted at UC coaches and fans, and of course, the players.  Xavier's image is a nice little Jesuit school, that doesn't condone any of this.  The fans chanted "Fu*K UC" during the game at Xavier's Cintas Center and things were boiling the whole game.  Smack talking came from both sides and the referees gave a total of one technical foul the whole game.  They didn't understand the rivalry.  The schools hate each other.  Anyway, a UC player got in the face of Tu Holloway, a first team preseason All-American.  Something happened to wear #5 for Xavier pushed the UC player over right in front of UC's bench.  Then all hell broke loose.  Yancy, who had the ball threw it directly at Holloway.  The benches cleared. Yancy blind sided Kenneth Fraese and it knocked him out immediately.  It was a nice punch but Kenneth was blindsided and I don't like cheap shots.  This doesn't change my opinion of Yancy though.  I still like the guy.  He was just coming to the defense of his teammate who was pushed down.  Those of you who talk to me regularly know I am a huge fan of Pat Sims on the Bengals for doing the same thing.  And at the press conference, for some reason they let the Xavier kids speak.  They came off with a "we are better than them" attitude.  Not just in basketball but like snobbish.  They aren't though.  Where you go to school does not matter.  UC has the thug reputation. I.E. Steve Logan, Leonard Stokes, Ruben Patterson, Danny Fortson, and who could forget Art Long who was known for punching a horse.  He later went on to work one of the basketball booths at King's Island.  Back to this situation on Saturday:  I believe that this could be avoided if the referees had called a few technicals and it never would've come to what happened at the end.  Xavier made their school look just as bad as UC's.  There is no justifying either side.  I have no loyalty to either school.  My unbiased eyes saw both teams look embarrassing and it could've been avoided if both teams have just shut up.  Xavier sounded like thugs at the press conference.  They are no better than UC.  Tu Halloway asked the beat writer for Xavier to tweet, "We just put them (UC) in a f**king body bag."  That is pretty classless.  I can't even defend it.  I also can't understand the #13 on UC stomping on Fraese who I believe was attempting to stop the fight.  This is also very classless.  I hope they can continue to play the game annually because one bad event doesn't mean it will happen every year.  

Winner of the Day:  Alec Baldwin.  Yeah, Alec, you are an actor, so you are right you shouldn't have to follow the same rules that everyone else does.  He was thrown off of a plane for refusing to shut down "Words With Friends" on his cell phone for takeoff.  There was a point where I was addicted too, but it gets old fast Alec.  Trust me.  A month from now, you'll be burnt out.  The story.

Loser of the Day:  The city of Cincinnati.  On national TV, its two major college basketball programs were in a brawl and on Sunday its pro football team blew a win.  Not a good weekend for the city.

Quote of the Day: "If you can't beat them beat them."


Song of the Day: Don't Worry, Be Happy by Bobby McFerrin

Cool Animal of the Day: The Yeti Crab

From http://divaboo.info/

Kiwa hirsuta is a crustacean discovered in 2005 in the South Pacific Ocean. This decapod, which is approximately 15 cm (6 inches) long, is notable for the quantity of silky blond setae (resembling fur) covering its pereiopods (thoracic legs, including claws). Its discoverers dubbed it the "yeti lobster" or "yeti crab"[2].

K. hirsuta was discovered in March 2005 by a group organised by Robert Vrijenhoek of the Monterey Bay Aquarium Research Institute in Monterey, California, using the submarine DSV Alvin, operating from RV Atlantis[3]. The discovery was announced on the 7th of March, 2006. It was found 1,500 km (900 miles) south of Easter Island in the South Pacific, at a depth of 2,200 m (7,200 feet), living on hydrothermal vents along the Pacific-Antarctic Ridge[4]. Based on both morphology and molecular data, the species was deemed to form a new genus and family (Kiwaidae). The animal has strongly reduced eyes that lack pigment, and is thought to be blind.

The 'hairy' pincers contain filamentous bacteria, which the creature may use to detoxify poisonous minerals from the water emitted by the hydrothermal vents where it lives. Alternatively, it may feed on the bacteria, although it is thought to be a general carnivore[2]. Its diet also consists of green algae and small shrimp.

Relationship Advice Column Edition 9: Flirting

It's Friday, so that basically means relationship advice day.  Today's topic is flirting.  What constitutes flirting?  Everyone's definition is different.  The word flirt has three meanings according to Dictionary.com.  We are dealing with the first definition which says, 

Flirt:
verb (used without object)

1. to court triflingly or act amorously without serious intentions; play at love; coquet.

If you ask ten different people to define the word, you'd get ten different answers.  I know, you are all just sitting at home, at the school library, at work, or in some coffee shop somewhere thinking, "I wonder what David Brooks thinks is flirting." And Ladies (and gentlemen, if you actually read on Friday's), today is your lucky day.  Dictionary.com used a bunch of big words in their definition, two of which have squiggles underneath them because my blog doesn't recognize them as words.  My definition will be straight forward.

Flirt:

verb

1. To show someone you are interested in them many times in a light and silly matter, although it could be deep.

Basically flirting is anything you do to try to get the attention of someone of the opposite sex (or the same sex if you swing that way) and is someone to whom you are attracted.  With that being said, some heartless people out there will break the rules and flirt with people that are not attracted to which begins the term, "game playing" and it causes confusion, lead ons, and all of that good stuff.   

There are varying levels of flirting.  The first tier, is basic getting to know you or playground stuff.  You'd maybe pull the girl/guy's hair or like tap their other shoulder.  Maybe you'd tease the person.  Playful stuff you'd see at a grade school playground, and yes I've seen plenty of this going on in my adult life.  The second tier is sweet talking.  You know, like telling the person, "you are very hot with clothes on, I'd love to see you with them off." 

 I know that's cheesey and I promise I've never used that line in my life but it was an example to get my point across.  The third tier is the touchy-feely tier.  This could be a result of the first two tiers.  Cuddling, putting your arm around them, rubbing their back, and massaging are all examples of this tier.  Yes, you could be dating someone and still be flirting with them.  Anything beyond this tier goes past the realm of flirting and into deeper relationship/cheating categories, like kissing, making out, feeling up, and sex are not flirting anymore and anyone who says they are misunderstand and misuse the word, flirt. 

Flirt can take the form of a noun.  You've all heard someone use this line, "she's a flirt."  I think it basically means a slut of flirting.  I know that sounds like it has negative undertones, but it is just a statement.  I call myself a music slut all the time. 

Everybody has flirted.  Sometimes one does it consciencely; sometimes it's subconsciously.  Anyway, when is it okay to flirt?  I have been in arguments about this so I guess it is a debate.  Obviously it's okay to flirt with anyone who's single.  I don't mean single like on official documents like not married, but single as in anyone who's not in a relationship.  If anyone is considered in a "talking" phase of a relationship, it is okay to flirt.  I say this mainly because I don't believe in the term.  You are either together or not.  There is no middle ground.  You could be "dating" but that just means not going steady with anyone and dating around, and in that phase, of course it's okay to flirt.  Now when someone's taken, I don't believe it is okay to flirt with them.  Some argue that if the taken one flirts with you it is okay to flirt back.  I get that.  I still believe you should resist the urges even if you are attracted.  We've all slipped up and broke this rule, myself included.  Don't take the bait.  There's a hook on the worm; it's obvious if you just look and if you don't want that thing in your upper lip with someone reeling you in ready to eat you then resist the temptation.

I know I said I'd finish the story I began yesterday on today's blog, but this one is already long enough so I will save that for Monday.  

Quote of the Day: "If I kind of like a guy, then I'm a fantastic flirt. But with a guy I truly like, I get painfully shy."-Shannen Doherty

Song of the Day: I'm a Flirt Remix by R.Kelly ft. T-Pain and T.I.