Relationship Advice Column Edition 5, Friends (and an aside about a bird)

So today is relationship advice day and the topic of the day is friends.  Yep, just friends.  Not the homies/brothers friends; this is about friends of the opposite sex.  Years ago, it was hard to have friends of the opposite sex.  You had your guy friends then you had her wife and her girlfriends.  It's not like that anymore.  Friendship has become blind to sex.  I would say that I have as many if not more female friends as I do male friends.  So what is a friend?  Someone who is with you during the good times and there for you when the waters get rough. That's basically it.  Why should it matter whether it is a male or a female? Well, because sometimes feelings creep in.  Not always, but it does happen.  Sometimes it is just one person that feels that way, sometimes it is both, but you have to make that line clear especially if one of the people are involved in a relationship.  A true friend can set aside his or her feelings for the greater good of the friendship.  


So friends with benefits? Why?  What is the point?  In my opinion you are either together or you are not.  When things are exclusive to one person, you are in a relationship but that is just me.  You can call it what you want, talking, friends with benefits, dating, going steady, whatever but you are in a relationship.  You have sex as friends.  Whether you want to admit it or not you are together.


Another thing that happens a lot with friends of the opposite sex is when a friend gets ignored once one of the two friends gets into a relationship.  The friend becomes less important to the other but the other will still be there.  It has to be understood by both parties during a transition period with a new relationship, things may be uncomfortable for the subject's date that one has a close friendship with someone of the opposite sex.


Main point about being friends.  Draw a line.  Do not cross it.  You know what is right and what isn't.  If it feels like more it probably is so either go for more than friends or run back to the other side of the line.


Sorry this isn't the best advice column today, but I had a traumatic experience on break with two of my coworkers so my heart is in other places.  We saved a bird. It was a small little bird that looked to have two broken legs...we still have no idea if they were broken.  Anyway, we came up on it tried to shoosh it and it didn't move.  We finally got it up onto a ledge and it still did not budge.  We moved it because some cruel person like Michael Myers or somebody would probably walk down the sidewalk and stomp on the poor thing on purpose. Anyway as I was videoing the thing finally flew away. It was the most fearless bird I have ever seen.  It did not fear humans.

Winner of the Day: This gorilla from the Cincinnati Zoo. Taken during HallZooWeen.

Loser of the Day: This bastard, Ronald Williams, who killed his daughter and then cowardly killed himself. The story.

Quote of the Day:"Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it."-Ferris Bueller (Matthew Broderick)


Song of the Day: Save the Best for Last by Vanessa Williams

Ugly Athlete of the Day: Dante Bichette...Louie Anderson?